Here’s the response for the third Single Sunday question of the week: What do you think are the three best things about being single? This week the video is a bit different, because I am in California on a business trip. I tried to get the video out on Sunday (it’s still technically Sunday on the west coast!) so I didn’t get to spend much time planning out the video or doing multiple takes just in case. All of my editing software is back at home, too. I wish I could have spent more time sharing bits about Steven and Belinda’s conversation on Single Sunday’s Facebook page. I suppose you will just have to like the page and check it out for yourself!
Here’s my original response to Question #3:
I love the independence of doing what I want without checking someone else’s schedule. I can go to the movies by myself or with friends, and I don’t have to worry about neglecting my significant other or interrupting plans he may have already made. Being single also provides a good opportunity to discover who you are as an individual. It doesn’t seem like experimenting with identity would be easy while in a relationship. I also really enjoy having close guy friends who know me well and are available to talk with when I need advice. Being in a relationship has the potential to complicate that friendship with jealousy and drama.
After I wrote my original response, I thought more about the identity aspect of being single. You have probably heard from separating couples, whether fictional or real, “She’s not the woman I fell in love with” or “He wasn’t always like this.” I think sometimes people end up marrying someone “different” because their partner wasn’t sure of who they were to begin with. There are other people who base their identity on being in a relationship, so singleness creates an identity crisis. They don’t know who they are as an individual because they built their identity on the relationship. Like in Runaway Bride, it’s not until Julia Roberts’ character is single that she learns about herself or even what kind of eggs she likes. Rather than creating a crisis, singleness should be viewed as an incredible opportunity. How do you like your eggs?
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